Today I'm happy about ...

kreuzkav

Stella, a few years ago aged 40  I dated a 25 year old woman. Didn't last long due to her going back to Spain and long distance being a problem.  She said she preferred me to  younger guys. In fact she was quite obsessed which I found a bit scary.  She could have been bullshitting, but I don't think so.

Stella

It's not uncommon that men date younger women, but women dating younger (much younger) guys are considered cougars, which I find ridiculous. Double standards, anyone? <br>One is as old as one feels and everyone likes different things. I don't like to categorise people. If a 40-year-old gets on with a 25-year-old, that's fine and nobody else's business. Same the other way round. <br><br>ETA: And I know of a girl, who's 22 or so now, and she exclusively likes older guys. When we worked together she was 19 and dated a 45-year-old. <br>

kreuzkav

Stella, I agree.  But as a man who likes women should I just like women my age, race...and I have nothing against women who date younger men.  And to be honest after the 25 year old, I want to form a long term relationship with a woman my age as it's nice to chat about older cultural references......

Stella

I think everyone should date who they like. Love is a curious thing, it hits you smack bang in the face when you don't expect it and often with a person you didn't even dream of falling in love with. Who are we to judge? If a couple's happy, then let them be. :-) <br>If you know that someone your age is better for you, that's fine, too. <br>

Sutent

You fall for who fall for. There is no logic sometimes behind it

kreuzkav

Yes Stella, I was beginning to think you were one of those people who had never dated but had a big downer on mixed relationships.   Men and women date people from different ages, races, change their gender likes.  It's part of the song and dance of life.  When I was 19 I dated a 25 year old woman.  When i was 40 a 25 year old woman.  I think now I'd like to date a woman my age.  Maybe next year a young or older man.  As long as they are not under-age. Who cares?

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Stella

Eh? What gave you that impression?<br><br>

kreuzkav

@ Misscara, I agree.  Only dated one woman with a big age difference (15 years) and while I don't regret it, never again.  I think men (not talking about women here) should grow up and date women around their age when they reach 40.  

Stella

And women should also grow up and only date men in their forties? <br><br>I had a friend who you'd not think he's in his 40s. Wore his cap backwards, cycled, skateboarded and damn he had a body most guys in their 20s could only dream of. He was just young at heart and a cheeky man. But still very responsible and all that. It suited him.<br>

kreuzkav

@ Stella.  If a man or woman wants to date a much younger person, providing they are not underage it's up to them.  From personal experience never again. It's a bit sad. How did we get on to this.  It's not really Stroud Green based.

Stella

I still want to know how you got to the conclusion that I've never dated. <br>

kreuzkav

@ Stella.  I said I was beginning to think....You seemed a bit naive and going on about cougars when no one said women shouldn't date younger men.<div><br></div><div>''  <span style="font-family: 'lucida grande', 'Lucida Sans Unicode', tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 12.727272033691406px; line-height: 20.795454025268555px; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">It's not uncommon that men date younger women, but women dating younger (much younger) guys are considered cougars, which I find ridiculous. Double standards, anyone? ''</span><div><br></div><div><br></div></div>

Stella

LOL Oh man. You got the wrong end of the stick. Never mind. <br><br><br>

Stella

And after reading it a second time, it still doesn't occur to you that I'm reflecting society's view on things?

kreuzkav

@ stella.  No problem.  It's just a discussion. To quote Womack and Womack.  'We don't need these Love Wars'.<div><br></div><div><a href="">

Stella

Yes, it's just a discussion, but it would help if everyone involved actually <i>read </i>the posts. :-)<br><br><br>

kreuzkav

Stella, I just felt the quote was a bit naive and had nothing to do with real dating emotions.  The other people in the discussion spoke of dating experiences.  Not some fairly bad quote about cougars.  I would never in a million years call a woman a cougar or quote something like that.  It's against women, and men too.<div><br></div><div>And if you want to say it's a quote you need to use quotation marks or refer to the article.  </div><div><br></div><div><br></div>

Stella

I rest my case.<br>

jtf

<font face="Arial, Verdana">oh yeah.. hadn't realised my profile name was gender ambiguous Sutent. Am female. </font><div style="font-family: Arial, Verdana; line-height: normal;">Totally agree Cougar is a horrible and disparaging word. </div><div style="font-family: Arial, Verdana; line-height: normal;">Kreuzkav, refreshing to hear a guy say that  "<span style="background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-family: 'lucida grande', 'Lucida Sans Unicode', tahoma, sans-serif; line-height: 20.796875px; font-size: 10pt;">men (not talking about women here) should grow up and date women around their age when they reach 40".  </span><span style="background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-family: 'lucida grande', 'Lucida Sans Unicode', tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 10pt; line-height: 20.796875px;">Not as a fixed rule obvsly.</span></div><div style="font-family: Arial, Verdana; line-height: normal;"><span style="background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-family: 'lucida grande', 'Lucida Sans Unicode', tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 10pt; line-height: 20.796875px;"><br></span></div><div style="font-family: Arial, Verdana; line-height: normal;"><span style="background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-family: 'lucida grande', 'Lucida Sans Unicode', tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 10pt; line-height: 20.796875px;">grrr.. i feel a rant coming on.. lovely sunny day tho.</span></div>

miss annie

Thing is, if a man is still interested in having children at 40, they are unlikely to date a woman of the same age. If they have raised a family and are ready to have a life of their own again age isn't a factor. Women have less options in that regard.

Toddlesocks

Im happy it  is a lovely day, enough to put a spring in my step, but dont know if its enough spring to go shopping then to the pub with a friend. Feel awful as have had to put her off twice before.<div><br></div><div>One thing getting older has taught me, it is really important to keep contact with friends and invest time in them , sad and unwise  when people focus on a partner drop friends to do it..  Will dig out my ol bike  to get to the pup, though pubs and bike is not a good combo i guess </div>

miss annie

Absolutely agree Toddlesocks.

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Idoru

I'm happy that it's the weekend and I won't have to do any more 12-hour days. For the next three weeks, anyway.<br>

Detritus

Today I'm happy that I don't go to leeds games any more. And the reason why is we are shit.

Sutent

Agree stunning morning. Park run wonderful this am as well as yoga. Squeezed in a quick pap pizza and discovered new coffee shop which I will tell you about. Time to raid fruit and veg shops of green lanes then lots of work for me.

Sutent

Just listening to the Cure this morning. My favorite ever band. I am soo glad I got see Robert Smith play twice in my life. <div><br></div><div>I also love Joy Division. I have seen New Order a few times but missed Ian Curtis. </div><div><br></div><div>And what a hottie Debbie Harry is from Blondie!</div>

Sutent

I have always wanted to go out with a girl call Elise so I could write her a letter<div><br></div>

Stella

Do I get a say in who I'm dating or not? Just wondering. Lovely, sunny day. I'll be out for a walk.<br><br>What made me happy just now? Listening to this: